Forgiveness

I've been wondering-what is the limit of forgiveness?

When do people cross that invisible indeterminable line that decides when can you forgive a person and when can you not?

Consider for example Ajmal Amar Kasab-he's obviously done something thats totally unforgivable and you'd be hard put to find even some people who would be willing to allow him to let him turn over a new leaf and start over. I'm definitely not one of them.

But what about other stuff like someone telling in on you, betraying you in business/relationship, backstabbing you, insulting you, treating you like filth?

Would you forgive them? What if they had done something totally unforgivable? For example consider how hard would it be for parents to forgive the rapist who destroyed their daughters life?

I totally empathize with the parents...its unforgivable...the worst thing anyone could ever do...I'm sure many people would say that such a guy deserves to rot in hell.

But regardless of how it may sound, there is still the other side to the coin that we have not yet seen. That we, blinded by righteousness choose to ignore because our mentality doesn't let us go in the minds of the accused.

I do not say that all cases are like that.

And that is the doubt in my mind-how do you decide who is unforgivable and who is worth giving a second chance?

Take the above example of the rapist. That guy might have been sexually abused himself(or even herself) when they were a kid. Yes, that happens!

Childhood sexual abuse is much more common than we people are aware of.

And hence, what if the rapist had himself been assaulted regularly, again and again when he was what, like 8 years old?

Imagine the traumatic effect such an event would have on his psyche.

His whole life he would fear any sort of intimacy, start at the slightest physical gesture!

Then teenage, adolescence, sexual maturity-would be tough to cope with.

If you come to know all these facts about the rapist-would you then be able to say concretely, without any doubt, that he deserves to "rot in hell"?

I feel, any parents who would be able to forgive such a person, are very very "developed souls".

Now, lets go even deeper into the situation of this rapist. What if you would have been his mother/father/brother?

Then?

What would you be going through if you came to know all this? Would you then feel that he deserves to "rot in hell"?

Begging for forgiveness would be more likely, I believe.

How easy would it be for the these parents to forgive the accused, and how tough for the "victim"'s parents to forgive?

Is forgiveness then a matter of the relationship you have with the so-called "accused"?

Who would the actual accused be, in this case? The rapist? Or the person(s) who assaulted him? Or Fate?

I'd suggest no one, no one, is accused.

We are all "bhogis"-we simply pay for our karma.

All that is, is karma.

It was the karma of the girl that led her to suffer such physical abuse, it was karma of the person who inflicted abuse on her that led him/her to be abused in childhood. It was karma of the parents of the girl, that their daughter had to suffer such.

Who is to blame, hence?

I believe, no one.

Never can you blame anyone that they did this this that that thing to you. Everything is our own responsibility. We have no right to point fingers at anyone else or blame them that "you did this to me" or "You are the reason I'm in this mess" or "how dare you say so and so to me".

I believe fundamentally, no one, once again -NO one, can hurt us. Everything that comes to us, happens to us, is what we had sometime in the past, sent out.

Where does the question of forgiveness arise then?

I'd also like to point out, before we think that should we forgive them or not-once, once we should really step into their shoes, or maybe their closed ones' shoes and really know how is it to be on the other side of the bars.

The guy who raped must be suffering in guilt unimaginable himself. This is undeniable-all those who do wrong, know somewhere in their conscious/subconscious that they did something they shouldn't have. They regret it. They suffer. Day after day. Year after year. They might not know the reason for their suffering consciously, but somewhere they are aware, that their karma is getting back at them. Their parents must be cursing their fate and themselves. But would they not want to help both the "victim" and the "accused"?

Think about it.

Why so COMPLICATED?

I was wondering, why can't things in life be simple and easy-to-understand and a bit-even just a bit less-complicated?

Why do you have to be liking someone and they someone else and that someone else someone else and so on and so on and on and on?

Why can't we choose something that we really wanna do from the bottom of our heart but we don't do it for the fear of what our loved ones would say? I mean in such a case its so tough! Such a tricky situation the Fates put on us-at one side is our happiness, our well being, our future and at the other side the happiness of one of our closest people in our life? Choosing our happiness would put them in a bad light and maybe our relations would be upset too...

But what do you do? Put yourself in misery and do something that you really wouldn't like to do?

How easily, we judge people who we have just met or our colleagues, or people we hear about. We say with clear cut conscience backed righteousness, "No, no, thats not the way, he is totally wrong. He is at fault."

But when it comes to our family and closest friends, our conscience seems to have died!

However we may try, we cannot come to a conclusion as to whether they did wrong or was it just the circumstances or whether they deserve whats happening to them or the most important of all-should we take their side and snuff our conscience? Or risk their disapproval and go ahead with what a part of our brain and heart tells us to do?

You see? How confusing it gets?

Why can't everything be simple and easy and straight? Why do things have to be circles and circles?

Weird life!

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Something I came across

Hi everyone!

I just came across this article and felt like I should share it with everyone-I did it on FB, but then thought maybe I should create a blog and discuss such stuff?

Whether this is just that one-time excitement or a more long-term relationship, remains to be seen ;)

Well, here's the article-

"

People Come Into Your Life For A Reason, A Season Or A Lifetime

When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON. . .
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are!
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part,
or at an inconvenient time, this person will say
or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met,
our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered.
And now it is time to move on.

Then people come into your life for a SEASON....
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons
: things you must build upon in order to have
a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all
other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

"

Thanks to TheEnhanceLife.com for the info!

Well, what are your views everyone?

Feel free to comment!

Adios amigos!